Tuesday, August 25, 2015

Calendars and Clocks

The clock on my desk sometimes seems to run my life.  I’m always checking to see that I am “on time” for this or that.  Keeping people waiting is very uncomfortable for me.  Or I’m checking to see if I “have time” to do one more thing before I need to move on to the next scheduled event.  When I am not checking the clock, it seems that I’m checking the calendar.  Though people often think that I have a calendar in my head, I have become increasingly reliant upon paper calendars and electronic calendars to remind me of how I’ve committed to spend my time. As I get older, it cannot be assumed that an appointment is sufficiently encoded on that calendar in my head.  And, of course, I wouldn’t want to miss a thing. Where did all of this preoccupation with time come from?  How did time become so important?

Time can be loosely defined as a space between events.  Early measures of time were quite simple and functional.  A day, the space between two nights, and a month, the space between new moons, were adequate measures in early “times”. Even now, I love it when I hear a parent tell their child “just two more sleeps” before some anticipated event.  This refreshingly simple measure is adequate for the really important things in life.  Similarly the measurement of one’s age as the number of harvests he/she has lived through seems adequate without reference to the precise month date and year when we arrive or pass from this world.  Bedtime was once the time when the day no longer provided adequate light.  What simplicity.

 In my own life I intend to seek out more unscheduled “times”.  Let me pencil that in. 

Sunday, August 23, 2015

Turns in the Road

Do you ever wonder just how many turns in the road led you to be in just this place where you are today?  How did that happen?  Did it just happen or were there decisions involved?  How were those decisions made?  Whose voice was in your head?  What dream were you following?  Did you have a spirit guide?  Did you have a vision or were you just on an adventure?  Is your life filled with randomness? Are your decisions made intuitively?  Or are you completely rational and methodical?  Do you take risks or play it safe?  Does the past weigh more heavily in your decisions, or does your future weigh more?

 How have these traits worked out for you so far?  Have you tried making decisions in any other way or trying on a different style?

Friday, August 21, 2015

The thing about Saturdays

What is it about Saturdays?  The day starts out with that amazing feeling of leisure and the thought that the day is all yours.  You might have thought you would sleep later but something pulls you up and out of bed.  Maybe it is that first cup of coffee or the opportunity to be up while the house and the streets are quiet.  Something propels you forward. And then, the little commitments and the tasks which you’ve put off for the weekend come to mind.  Little by little the day becomes filled.  It may be filled with friends, filled with errands, filled with projects, or filled with everyday chores. It may be filled with conversations or with solitude.  The day may unfold just as you planned or it may turn out to be nothing that you had anticipated.  But what is it about Saturdays?  Saturdays are a slice of who you are.  Saturdays are made up of those things that you treasure most.  Saturdays clarify your priorities and help you to weed out the unnecessary agendas from your life.

This Saturday take time to breathe.  Go for a walk.  Drop one thing to do another. Allow yourself to be flexible and gentle with yourself.

Change is in the Air

Have you ever noticed how the changes in the seasons bring up a variety of emotions?  It might be the feel in the area that tickles a memory in the back of our mind.  It might be that rain triggers sadness or that it prompts us to curl up with a blanket, a good book and a cup of coffee.  Sometimes the shortening of the days can signal a “closing in”, a sense of less freedom or less hours or a sense that something is slipping away or, for others, a sense of safety. A sunny day can be ever so energizing. Or it can make one feel vulnerable. There are times that the changes in the trees and the gardens remind of us of times gone by. The color of the sky reminds us of a loss that may have occurred at a similar time.  Or, it may stir a memory of a special event and bring a slight smile. 

Some of these emotions are refreshing and energizing and others are uncomfortable, even heavy.  It may be easier to “weather” these changes by talking about them, writing about them or seeking an activity that allows you to best deal with them.